The Four Agreements : A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom – Don Miguel Ruiz
Honestly, who hasn’t read this book? I hope you have. And, if you haven’t, this is a book everyone needs to read several times in their life. If I had to guess, this was probably my 4th time reading it. And guess what? Just like I got something out of it the other times I read it – I did this time too! We all change right? And, hopefully for the better – continual growth. But, depending on where we are in our lives, we see things differently.
So, what are the four agreements?
1. Be impeccable with your word
2. Don’t take anything personally
3. Don’t make assumptions
4. Always do your best
Done. Over. I mean what else do you really need to know? If we all followed those 4 things every single day of our lives – we would live in one hell of an amazing place. I believe I follow them most times, but I am not perfect and at times I fall off. I am pretty damn good at not taking things personally, but I will say I can be one to make assumptions. You know what my dad used to say about assumptions? They make an ass out of you and me. I am a work in progress on that one – but, I am better than I was yesterday and for that I am thankful!
So what was my big takeaway? Self love – that is what I dedicated the month of reading to. Loving yourself. When I read, I highlight like crazy. When I am done, I go back and look over what I highlighted. And, if it’s REALLY important I will fold in the corner of the page and leave it folded! So I go back through this book and look at what I’ve highlighted and guess what? Everything, and I mean everything, is all related to loving ourselves more. Taking it easy on ourselves.
Ask yourself this question. How many times do you pay for the same mistake? Unfortunately, it could be tens of thousands. You do something wrong, you judge yourself, you feel guilty, you forget, you are reminded, you feel guilty again, you judge yourself, and the vicious cycle continues. Why on earth would we do this? The way we judge ourselves is the worst judge that ever existed. Why? Why? Why? We all strive to be perfect. Um, do we even know a perfect person? Nope. I serve a perfect God and I strive to be more like Him daily – but I have no doubt in my mind I am not perfect. But, I still judge myself. Striving for perfection is the reason we judge ourselves and why it is difficult to accept others for who they are. Of course, this can be a difficult agreement to break – but everything in life is possible if you put your mind to it. You are worthy. You are perfectly imperfect. You are a child of God.
I love quotes. Here are a couple I loved.
1. Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding is all you see. – John Lennon
2. But like a sword with two edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream, or your word can destory everything around you. – Don Miguel Ruiz